Saying Goodbye to What Longer Serves You

#loveyourself #newhabits #newmindset #prioritize #selfcare organization Aug 10, 2023

I want to talk about a phrase I’ve been seeing all over the place: Just love yourself.

Sounds simple, right? But as you’ve probably guessed, it’s a lot harder than that, and “loving yourself” looks different for everyone and changes day-to-day.

How about we take a minute to reframe our notions of what self-love means. What if love-self is simply “an acceptance of who you are and a commitment to personal growth.” I like the sound of that much better. Not only does it feel attainable, but it’s simple and powerful enough to profoundly change our lives, and those around us.

Whitney Goodman, LMFT, author of Toxic Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy, says “Self-love isn’t navel-gazing and never contributing to the world. It’s actually the best foundation to have a loving, healthy partnership with someone else. It’s the best foundation to be a parent. It’s the best foundation to share your gifts as you work in the world.”

So let’s spend some time this week building our foundation of self-love so we can be our best for ourselves and for those around us each day. But to build a strong solid foundation, that means getting rid of the debris from the old one. This week we’re saying goodbye to the old so we can make space for the new…

Clear space = clear mind. You’ve probably heard it said many times that physical clutter leads to mental clutter. When your space is disorganized, it can be hard to feel clear minded and relaxed. Set a timer for 10 minutes and take some time to organize the junk drawer, clear off your bedside table, or clean up your workspace. Your mind will thank you!

Self-Care Challenge: Clean out or organize a messy space

Just let go. It can be hard to love yourself and others well when you’re carrying some heavy – and I don’t mean your kids backpacks or your groceries. When we hold on to bitterness and resentment, it weighs us down physically, mentally, and emotionally. Take stock of what you’ve been holding on to and make a choice to let it go. Write the scathing letter or text, and then delete it. Scream into your pillow for a few minutes, and then be done.

Self-Care Challenge: Commit to letting go of a grudge or past hurt

Make space for something new. Constant transition and turnover can sometime rock us to the core -seasons change, relationships shift, jobs come and go - but these changes also present an opportunity for us to choose what we want our new “normal” to be. If an old job/relationship/season wasn't working, there’s no point in returning to that! Constant change allows you to decide what you want your life to look like right now. Make a list of your old “normal” and ask yourself: “does this serve me, right now? Will it help me get to where I want to be?” And then, release the things that no longer serve you. No longer working in-person in an office? Clear out your work wardrobe and make space for clothes that fit your current lifestyle. Get rid of the relics of a past you’ll never return to so you can make space for what you need right now.

Self-Care Challenge: Get rid of items you haven’t used in a year

Sometimes self-care means saying “see ya later!” to things, people, feelings, and “stuff” that just isn’t serving us. I hope you have the courage to say goodbye to the things that are holding you back so you can make space for the life you are building and the person you are becoming.

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